Stage 1
Stabilize
Getting grounded, rebuilding energy, and creating momentum
1
Module 1
What Do I Want From Sobriety?
Recommended Episodes
Ep 1 — Colm
The gifts of sobriety and the windows of opportunity that open when you stop drinking
Ep 2 — Mike
Finding purpose and direction in long-term sobriety
"Your Why" Episode
Using the Five Whys to find your deeper reason to stay sober — directly tied to this module
2
Module 2
Why You Feel Stuck (The Flat Spot)
Recommended Episodes
"How to Reignite Motivation When the Spark Fades"
Gratitude, small wins, and how to borrow belief until your own returns
Ep 5 — "It's Going to Be a Great Day"
Daily structure and morning habits that restart your energy
Ep 28 — "Welcome to Holland"
Accepting where you are without rushing to be somewhere else
3
Module 3
Getting Your Life Back on Track
Recommended Episodes
Ep 5 — "It's Going to Be a Great Day"
Building daily anchors and simple structure that creates momentum
Ep 9 — "Feel the Fear and Jump"
Action creates momentum — you don't have to feel ready to start
Ep 6 — "Ferris Bueller Was Right"
Presence and engagement — how being fully in your life changes everything
4
Module 4
Managing Your Emotions
Recommended Episodes
Ep 26 — "Managing Anger Sober in a Hostile World"
Practical tools for emotional regulation when the world feels hard
"Self-Talk" Episode
How your inner dialogue shapes your emotional reality — and how to change it
Ep 24 — "Perspective, Peace and Coffee"
Reframing how you see situations so they don't steal your peace
Ep 6 — "Ferris Bueller Was Right"
The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique and breathing tools for emotional reset
5
Module 5
You Are Not Alone
Recommended Episodes
Ep 32 — "What to Do When Bored or Lonely"
The one-connection rule and how to build community from scratch
Ep 1 — Colm
How one small connection changed the entire direction of his sober life
Ep 2 — Mike
Finding the right support system — and what to do when the first one doesn't fit
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
Why community isn't optional in recovery — it's the foundation
Stage 2
Reconnect
Understanding yourself — your thoughts, identity, and patterns
6
Module 6
Who Am I Now?
Recommended Episodes
Ep 29 — Cat Greenleaf
Reinventing your life and identity — how sobriety expanded her world, not shrank it
Jam Alker Episode
Multiple identity reinventions — musician, speaker, wellness entrepreneur — and how he found each one
Ep 14 — Dedee Pfeiffer
Building a new identity through purpose and service
Ep 2 — Mike
Discovering who you actually are when alcohol no longer defines you
7
Module 7
Your Mind Is Not Always Right
Recommended Episodes
"Self-Talk" Episode
Confirmation bias and how your brain builds the story you already believe
Ep 24 — "Perspective, Peace and Coffee"
How perspective shifts the way you feel, act, and live
Serena Episodes (Parts 1 & 2)
Self-criticism, the stories we tell ourselves, and how to change the questions you ask
8
Module 8
Taking Control of Your Life
Recommended Episodes
Ep 34 — "How to Trust Yourself"
Values, honesty, and the simple practice of doing what you say you'll do
"Your Why" Episode
Using your values as a compass when decisions feel hard
Ep 10 — "Respect to Thrive"
Making choices that are aligned with what you actually believe you deserve
9
Module 9
Letting Go of Shame
Recommended Episodes
Ep 10 — "Respect to Thrive"
You deserve better — rebuilding self-worth from the inside out
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
Step 4: the fearless moral inventory — guilt vs. shame, and the good alongside the bad
Ep 14 — Dedee Pfeiffer
Working through shame to find a sense of purpose and service
Serena Episodes (Parts 1 & 2)
Shame, self-criticism, and the path to self-compassion
Stage 3
Rebuild
Strengthening confidence, resilience, and relationships
10
Module 10
Burnout and Numbness
Recommended Episodes
"How to Reignite Motivation When the Spark Fades"
The flat season is real — here's what helped real people get through it
Ep 28 — "Welcome to Holland"
Accepting where you are without pushing yourself harder than you can handle
Ep 24 — "Perspective, Peace and Coffee"
Finding beauty in ordinary, slower days — sobriety isn't a punishment
11
Module 11
Rebuilding Trust in Yourself
Recommended Episodes
Ep 34 — "How to Trust Yourself"
The simple practice: say it, then do it — how small promises rebuild self-trust
Ep 2 — Mike
Rebuilding trust over decades — what consistency actually looks like
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
Honesty as the bedrock of trusting yourself and earning trust from others
12
Module 12
Your Resilience Toolkit
Recommended Episodes
Ep 9 — "Feel the Fear and Jump"
Courage as a coping tool — action is often the answer when everything feels hard
Ep 26 — "Managing Anger Sober in a Hostile World"
Grounding, de-escalation, and resetting your nervous system quickly
Ep 7 — "Cravings Explained"
Three stories that help you understand what you're up against — and how to explain it to others
Ep 6 — "Ferris Bueller Was Right"
The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method — a reliable tool for your kit
13
Module 13
Healing Relationships
Recommended Episodes
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
How consistent action — not promises — is what rebuilds trust in relationships
Ep 10 — "Respect to Thrive"
Boundaries, self-respect, and how you show up in your relationships
Ep 34 — "How to Trust Yourself"
Consistency is what teaches others they can count on you again
Ep 6 — "Ferris Bueller Was Right"
Presence — truly showing up — is the foundation of meaningful connection
Stage 4
Expand
Exploring goals, joy, and new possibilities
14
Module 14
Goals Without Pressure
Recommended Episodes
Ep 30 — "I Have a Dream"
Reflection, vision, and what becomes possible when you look at what's already working
Ep 29 — Cat Greenleaf
How curiosity and small steps build a life you never could have planned
"Your Why" Episode
Your why is the compass that makes direction feel natural, not pressured
Ep 9 — "Feel the Fear and Jump"
Small leaps build the momentum to reach bigger goals
15
Module 15
Joy, Fun, and Enjoyment
Recommended Episodes
Ep 6 — "Ferris Bueller Was Right"
Presence and engagement — how being fully there is how you actually enjoy your life
Ep 24 — "Perspective, Peace and Coffee"
Finding beauty in simple, ordinary moments — joy doesn't require intensity
Ep 28 — "Welcome to Holland"
The quiet joys of your unexpected life — they're already there if you look
Jam Alker Episode
Music, biohacking, and rediscovering what makes you feel alive
16
Module 16
Being of Service
Recommended Episodes
Ep 3 — Francesca Donlan
What kindness does to your brain, your relationships, and your sense of self
Ep 13 — Francesca: 6 Months of Daily Kindness
What a daily kindness practice actually does over time — and what you can steal from it
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
Step 12: carrying the message — service as a way of life, not just an action
Ep 14 — Dedee Pfeiffer
Turning your story into a mission — helping others is part of what heals you
17
Module 17
Growth Through Challenges
Recommended Episodes
Ep 9 — "Feel the Fear and Jump"
Hard moments build the strongest people — courage is born from action, not certainty
Ep 28 — "Welcome to Holland"
Life didn't go as planned. Now what? Finding your footing in the unexpected
Tia Episode
Cirrhosis, a liver transplant, and coming back — resilience, gratitude, and new beginnings
Ep 1 — Colm
Every hard moment opened an unexpected window — he just had to keep going
Stage 5
Thrive
Living with purpose, direction, and confidence
18
Module 18
Meaning and Purpose
Recommended Episodes
"Your Why" Episode
Purpose is what keeps sobriety alive long-term — your why is the bridge
Ep 30 — "I Have a Dream"
Reflecting on what matters, what you've built, and what's still possible
Ep 29 — Cat Greenleaf
How sobriety became a doorway to deeper meaning, not a closed door
Dr. Jordan Grumet Episode
The Purpose Code: big-P vs. small-p purpose, and why everyday meaning is enough
19
Module 19
Speaking Up and Self-Respect
Recommended Episodes
Ep 10 — "Respect to Thrive"
Self-respect is the foundation — you have to believe you deserve good things first
Ep 34 — "How to Trust Yourself"
Honesty with others starts with being honest with yourself about your own limits
Jam Alker Episode
Building character around your values — and teaching others how to treat you
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Module 20
Thriving as a Lifestyle
Recommended Episodes
Ep 30 — "I Have a Dream"
The 8 areas of a thriving life — an honest check-in with all of them
Ep 19 — Colm & Mike: The 12 Steps
What thriving actually looks like after 25–35 years of sober living
Ep 2 — Mike
From jail to thriving — persistence, service, and the long game of sobriety
Ep 1 — Colm
A life he never could have imagined — built one small decision at a time
21
Module 21
Are You Already There?
Recommended Episodes
Ep 30 — "I Have a Dream"
Look at your wins — you may be closer to the life you wanted than you think
Ep 24 — "Perspective, Peace and Coffee"
What's already good in your life right now — if you stop and actually look
Ep 1 — Colm
Looking back on a life built from unexpected moments — and seeing how far it went
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